Home: The Foundation of Learning and Growth

Karl Balloch

 

Her mother-in-law asked her, “Where did you glean today? Where did you work? Blessed be the man who took notice of you! Ruth 2:19

From the home environment of Naomi and Ruth, we learn valuable lessons. When Ruth returns home from work and gives a full report, Naomi blesses her co-workers and boss. Boaz’s extensive provisions for Ruth show that she had much to learn. Boaz instructed his men not to scold Ruth but to guide her kindly, illustrating the importance of a supportive environment.

Home is the ultimate training ground, where the elders serve as influential teachers. The young child, born into or joining this first environment, is a blank slate, unaware of societal customs, manners, or the distinctions between right and wrong. This child is molded by the words and actions of their parents and elders. Home acts as a factory, where parents and elders are producing, and shaping children into reliable and positive members of society. This is achieved through positive words, experiences, and a hopeful outlook on the future.

My experience in Finland mirrors this. During my first job, my supervisors and co-workers overlooked my mistakes and encouraged me to learn. This supportive environment helped me learn quickly, and I praised my seniors for their patience and training.

Words spoken within the home have a profound impact on everyone, especially children. A positive home environment benefits everyone, particularly immigrants and refugees who have arrived in Finland. When families and communities gather at homes, sharing positive experiences and discussing the good qualities of the host society is crucial. Teach children to value the resources and opportunities available, and encourage them to participate in the cultural events and values of their new home, Finland.

Parents and elders often repeat stories of leaving behind wars, famines, economic hardships, and injustice, investing all their resources to start anew in Finland. They Should highlight the educational and training opportunities provided, and the official financial support that ensures they don’t have to rely on relatives. Such opportunities and support are often unavailable in their native homeland. These stories are not exaggerations but realities that build character of young people and foster positive attitudes. Positive attitudes towards social integration, government institutions, schools, training centers, teachers, and the police serve as role models for refugee youth, encouraging them to integrate into their new society.

Negative talk within the home has the opposite effect, fostering anger and dislike in children. This anger can quickly turn into hatred and a desire for revenge. When children with negative thoughts leave their homes, they feel isolated in society. They may seek relief through negative actions like littering, fare evasion, or harassment. These actions are often highlighted by those who seek to politicize the mistakes of refugees. Negative incidents make it difficult for organizations that aim to help refugees integrate.

Despite shared national, linguistic, and religious beliefs, differences in personality and behavior stem from the home environment and the influence of parents and elders. Children and youth are more affected by the company of their family than by books, movies, or friends. The natural, psychological, and genetic relationship between youth and their parents creates a bond of love and respect, making home conversations more impactful.

Understanding the importance of the home environment, parents and elders should educate children equally, regardless of gender. Teach them to maintain honesty, truth, and integrity in their dealings with schools, training institutes, and government institutions. Encourage timely tax payments and proper conduct. In Finland, mental health issues are not stigmatized, and consulting psychologists and medical experts is seen as a positive step. If there are signs of depression or psychological problems, seek help immediately. Patient data is secure, ensuring privacy and protection.

In summary, positive interactions and support from parents and community elders in the home environment contribute to better mental health, adaptability, self-esteem, and a sense of belonging for refugee youth. A nurturing and supportive home environment helps refugee youth thrive and contribute positively to their host community.